Did not get an offer from the company I wanted. They said that I am very good, but not outstanding. Also I can call them in 3 months and then they will decide.
In the beginning I was pretty upset about this fact. But on the other hand if I got an offer now I would relax and did not look for a job anymore. And in this case I would not have a base for comparison and probably would miss something better.
So, anyway thank you to the company for a half-positive feedback and let's see what my next steps will be.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Friday, December 17, 2010
dilemma
Is a negative experience is also good as an experience or it would be better if it never happened?
Thursday, December 9, 2010
the theory of love (attention) from the recepient point of view.
I do not remember where I heard this story. Like several years ago a group of American businessmen started a join venture with one Arab Sheikh. He came to US and got a crash on one low educated but pretty sexy blond secretary. She was in the end of her twenties, sexy and married. She did not care of that, but Americans willing make the Sheikh feek in their country as at home paid to the blondy additional bonus in order to make her more friendly. As a result she had a passionate affair with the Sheikh and the join venure was prosperous as well.
At some point the Sheikh had to returt to the Emirates and continue the business from over there. And his main condition was that he wanted to take that blondy with him. I do not remember the exact reason but that woman could not go to the Emirates. Probably she requested from the businessmen to much money for such a business trip.
The Sheikh got disappointed, the business went wrong, American businessmen got concerned. They invited the Sheikh to discuss the situation and discovered that really he did not care which blondy will go with him. So Americans just picked up another woman, who agreed to travel to the Emirates for more reasonable amount.
Now the dillemma. If you think that you can execute power because the person is enjoying your attention (love) there is always a trick. Unless you are really unique and can set up a benchmark for this person. The strategy for the recipient of attention (love) can be described with the following matrix:
At vertical axis is the significance of people, we can notice that the more perceived significance of the people the more valuable is their attention. Negative attention is hatrid and all the negative emotions people may have toward the receipient. It is difficult to have really significant enimies, but it might be enjoyable to have insignificant enimies which will be a source of energy and happiness for the receipient. If the significance of the person giving attention is really low, it does not matter for the receipient if he/she loves of hates him. The top point is a benchmark and can be changed. It is a perceived maximum of the quality of the person executing attention (love).
At some point the Sheikh had to returt to the Emirates and continue the business from over there. And his main condition was that he wanted to take that blondy with him. I do not remember the exact reason but that woman could not go to the Emirates. Probably she requested from the businessmen to much money for such a business trip.
The Sheikh got disappointed, the business went wrong, American businessmen got concerned. They invited the Sheikh to discuss the situation and discovered that really he did not care which blondy will go with him. So Americans just picked up another woman, who agreed to travel to the Emirates for more reasonable amount.
Now the dillemma. If you think that you can execute power because the person is enjoying your attention (love) there is always a trick. Unless you are really unique and can set up a benchmark for this person. The strategy for the recipient of attention (love) can be described with the following matrix:
I would put it like that. The majoruty is average people with medium level of attention (the even bigger majority is ignored) , they can be converted to average ppl with sustainably high level of attention and interchangeble.
Also let's evaluate the value (as increase of self-confidence for example) of external attention (you may call that attention - love) for the recepient of attention:
If we go back to the example of Sheikh the objective level of significance of the blondy was about 10, but for the Sheikh perceived level of her significance was about 20. Initially American businessmen (including the blondy as well) were overestimating her level of significance. They were thinking that it was close to the benchmark. But after they figured her real value they pretty fast solved the problem. The problem is that the person who lost in this case was Sheikh, who overestimated her real value. According to the strategy matrix he was in the middle point of that. But who knows...Maybe he saved transaction costs, or maybe the business with Americans was profitable for him as well.
Monday, December 6, 2010
feedback
When I was a kid I was always upset when I got to know that people were talking something bad about me.
When I became a teenager I avoided to hear people gossips not to be upset.
Then I stopped care and ignored their not always constructive criticism.
In the beginning of 20s I was forming my opinion of people based on their critits in my address.
Now I agree with what they are saying, accept my drawbacks and think what advantages I can get out of that.
When I became a teenager I avoided to hear people gossips not to be upset.
Then I stopped care and ignored their not always constructive criticism.
In the beginning of 20s I was forming my opinion of people based on their critits in my address.
Now I agree with what they are saying, accept my drawbacks and think what advantages I can get out of that.
Sunday, December 5, 2010
german latterns
She was looking at the window at that snow falling down and not melting...At the sparkling road with dirty cars, at the dim yeallow laterns and changing traffic lights of the crossroad...
Everything was so usuall...The world was living by its standard rules, so standard and usual that people forgot the meaning of all these principles. They follow them automatically, without even single thought, like animals moving by reflexes they would probably prefer never to have. What is her main instinct? Simply self-protection like for the wildest animals? And if it has psychological nature, that is even worse...
For some moment she imagined her life which also looked very undefined and unclear as if it was lightend by those yellow laterns. Yellow laterns which are made by Germans to save energy. So did she. She tried not to bother to comprehend the results of her actions and absence of actions (which is even worse when the action is required).
She knew that as soon as she start to change something around the world will punish her. And from her past experience she had an idea how sevire this punishment can be. She knew that if she does nothing, the curcumstances can change themselves. And maybe it will be favourable to her... Maybe not, but inaction and sweet feeling of ignorance would at the end hurt maybe not her, she is ready to that, but the people who had no idea of some future event. Maybe not all the people, one person...
Does it matter how many? Can she use an excuse that the person who will suffer is imperfect as well? Can she convince herself that the person who potentionally might be hurt would do the same she is doing? And after that close the eyes, look at another more optimistic direction and forget about the whole issue for a while.
Like a poor family in a story of the Russian shriftsteller Zoshenko. They got electricity to their room and understood how miserable they are. They realised that the room requires repairment. But they had no money for that and decided to live in a darkness, without electricity. To live ignoring the problem like they did before.
Maybe it is a way. But if she can accept the sufferning of a single person (potentional sufferning of course) because she does not want to suffer herself, does that mean that she is a bad person? Or she is unperfect just like all people around. Is she sure that she wants to change world? To change the world starting with herself?
She knows what she will do. She moved, closed the curtains not to see the yellow german latterns and went to bed thinking about completely differnt things.
Everything was so usuall...The world was living by its standard rules, so standard and usual that people forgot the meaning of all these principles. They follow them automatically, without even single thought, like animals moving by reflexes they would probably prefer never to have. What is her main instinct? Simply self-protection like for the wildest animals? And if it has psychological nature, that is even worse...
For some moment she imagined her life which also looked very undefined and unclear as if it was lightend by those yellow laterns. Yellow laterns which are made by Germans to save energy. So did she. She tried not to bother to comprehend the results of her actions and absence of actions (which is even worse when the action is required).
She knew that as soon as she start to change something around the world will punish her. And from her past experience she had an idea how sevire this punishment can be. She knew that if she does nothing, the curcumstances can change themselves. And maybe it will be favourable to her... Maybe not, but inaction and sweet feeling of ignorance would at the end hurt maybe not her, she is ready to that, but the people who had no idea of some future event. Maybe not all the people, one person...
Does it matter how many? Can she use an excuse that the person who will suffer is imperfect as well? Can she convince herself that the person who potentionally might be hurt would do the same she is doing? And after that close the eyes, look at another more optimistic direction and forget about the whole issue for a while.
Like a poor family in a story of the Russian shriftsteller Zoshenko. They got electricity to their room and understood how miserable they are. They realised that the room requires repairment. But they had no money for that and decided to live in a darkness, without electricity. To live ignoring the problem like they did before.
Maybe it is a way. But if she can accept the sufferning of a single person (potentional sufferning of course) because she does not want to suffer herself, does that mean that she is a bad person? Or she is unperfect just like all people around. Is she sure that she wants to change world? To change the world starting with herself?
She knows what she will do. She moved, closed the curtains not to see the yellow german latterns and went to bed thinking about completely differnt things.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Itaka
Was in German theater... Not that I am really impressed. Sometimes it is difficult to find the difference between the art (talant) and strange mix of desire to be original and modern. Honestly I did not really distinguish today what it was - the talant or the absence of that.
Actually I would opt for the absence but some people said that it was really cool, so I am trying to justify what I saw. Well, the play was about that people who immigrated to Germany and trying to get used to the country. People with their advantages and unperfections, opportunities and fears...Regular, not perfect, not positive, not negative international people ...
What I like that at the end they were say telling their names and deliberately lied from which countries they are. That was very cool and funny.
So they were:
Indonesian girl (called herself Thai. she reminded me an Indian godess, do not remember her name but the one with the tongue...)
Argentinian man (showed hot dances)
A man from Iran (I was really sure that he was Turkish, because the song he sang sounded like Tarkan)
Brasilian man (called himself as "Sascha aus Russland", very good body)
A man from Danmark (called himself French and Sweeden) -(the one who was yelling "Frauen, Fleisch" and doing sex-imitating movement).
So, it was really a mix of cultures (a lot of ethnical stuff, for example: the girl was throwing the flowers which was very beautiful or long dialogues hold on different languages). And the main point of that was how difficult to get used to another country and do not lose your identity and uniqueness.
Actually I would opt for the absence but some people said that it was really cool, so I am trying to justify what I saw. Well, the play was about that people who immigrated to Germany and trying to get used to the country. People with their advantages and unperfections, opportunities and fears...Regular, not perfect, not positive, not negative international people ...
What I like that at the end they were say telling their names and deliberately lied from which countries they are. That was very cool and funny.
So they were:
Indonesian girl (called herself Thai. she reminded me an Indian godess, do not remember her name but the one with the tongue...)
Argentinian man (showed hot dances)
A man from Iran (I was really sure that he was Turkish, because the song he sang sounded like Tarkan)
Brasilian man (called himself as "Sascha aus Russland", very good body)
A man from Danmark (called himself French and Sweeden) -(the one who was yelling "Frauen, Fleisch" and doing sex-imitating movement).
So, it was really a mix of cultures (a lot of ethnical stuff, for example: the girl was throwing the flowers which was very beautiful or long dialogues hold on different languages). And the main point of that was how difficult to get used to another country and do not lose your identity and uniqueness.
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